Jordan is 4 months today! Wow how time has flown! It seems like only yesterday when I was coming home from the hospital wondering if I’d ever have a “fat baby”. Well, I guess I don’t have to worry about that now!
I’m still trying to get over my sickness, so we’ve been in the past 4 days laying low. Jordan’s been a bit more fussy lately, but that could be stemming from a million different things. The pediatrician said that around 4 months is when acid reflux peaks, I’ve been sick and around Jordan, so she may have caught a bit of what I have, or her gas issues could be getting worse. Whatever the reason, she has now cried “real tears”. Up to this point, she would cry but produce no tears. Well, last night that changed. Unfortunatly she was crying because Daddy accidently scared her. He came up behind her in the jumper/activity center and tickled her. She had a startled look on her face, and then came the screaming, and the tears!! Poor Jordan, and poor Daddy! She produced more tears today, but I think it was due to not feeling well. Possibly an upset tummy.
The latest “issue” we have had is sleeping. It’s been probably almost a month now that she has cried for around 30-60 min when I’m trying to get her to bed. And the sad thing is, it’s probably my fault for not adopting a bedtime routine. I’ve always been against the schedule idea, but I liked the idea of a routine, yet it never seemed to happen. Our lives aren’t organized that way, so it’s hard to have hers organized when our lives are all over the place. I also seem to have accidently given her a “suck-to-sleep” association. I’ve let her fall asleep nursing a few too many times, and then when I was allowed to use the pacifier (after she was 4 weeks old, as recommended by the lactation consultant) I started substituting that for getting her to sleep. It was the only way I knew she would go to sleep, and I took advantage of it.
Cindi, the infant massage teacher recommended a book to us about getting babies to sleep without the screaming sessions, and not using the “cry-it-out” method. I’ve never liked the idea of letting the baby cry in the crib, though I know it has worked for some. It’s just not a method I am comfortable using. Well, the book is “The No-cry Sleep Solution” by Elizabeth Pantley. I ordered it off Amazon a little bit ago, and the first day I had it I blew through the first 3 chapters, and started on my “sleep logs”. Basically before you do anything, you log a day of your child’s sleep- naps, bedtime routine, or lack there of, and night wakings. Jordan’s been pretty good about night wakings for a while, but of course, the day I do the log, she woke up 10 times! She’s chosen her own bed time and get up in the morning time, which seems to be somewhere between 7-8pm for sleeping, and between 8-9 to get up. I’m good with those times, though getting dinner in the evening is going to prove harder when I try to impose the bedtime routine. I haven’t gotten through the 4th chapter yet ( it a LOOOONG one), but I implimented some of the ideas tonight to see how we do. Our bedtime routine tonight was playing on the floor for a bit, then swinging in the swing while Mommy and Daddy ate some dinner, then a nice relaxing bath, saying goodnight to Daddy, reading a couple little baby board books, and getting her last meal of the night. For the last feeding I decided to move the rocking chair into her room and set up a little station in there to nurse her. That way it was quiet and dimly lit, plus I had less of a walk to get her to her crib in the “sleepy stage” before she totally woke up and I had to start all over. It was quite relaxing for me, though I didn’t get her off the “suck-to-sleep” association. I’m not sure if I want to try that at the same time as the routine, and all, but I probably should. The earlier the better, I suppose. I just don’t know how else I’ll get her to go to sleep if I don’t let her fall asleep with the pacifier in her mouth. I don’t want her dependant on that, though. She is sucking her hands more, and I would rather she use her hands instead of the pacifier, but I can’t force her to use them. **A little side anecdote- she is now trying to suck her thumb and eat at the same time when she starts to get sleepy. She starts by rubbing her face while she’s eating, like she does when she’s tired, then as soon as her thumb gets near her mouth she starts sucking on that instead, then realizes she’s not getting any milk, and switches back to nursing. I noticed she does that with her pacifier, too when she’s trying to fall asleep. Very funny to watch!** Anyway, she seems to try to put her hands in her mouth with her pacifier, and ends up knocking it out. She’ll suck on her hands for a little bit, but then cries because she seems to want the pacifier, but can’t get it in her mouth. Then when I replace it, she starts the whole process over again. I want her to use her hands instead of the pacifier, so she doesn’t need a “prop” to go to sleep, but the only why she’ll fall asleep is if I hold her hands away from her face, while holding the pacifier in her mouth. If I don’t do that, she cries and cries until she’s in a frenzy, and then she can’t sleep at all. So you can see my frustration. We’ll see how she does tonight with the routine, but unfortunatly tomorrow she won’t get her routine at all, because we’re heading to Disneyland for the Family Holiday Party, and it starts at 8pm. She’ll be wearing a pajama-like outfit that my mom bought her, so I can put her straight to bed when we get home. We’re not going to stay out too late, just long enough to see a character or two, and Santa, and maybe ride a kiddie ride or two. We’ll see how she does. Hopefully I can get her to take her long naps tomorrow.
Well, in the middle of that last paragraph I went into Jordan’s room because she was crying and it took me an hour and 15 min to get her to sleep….
And now it’s a half hour since I wrote that, because Jordan cried again, and I went in to get her to sleep. I’m going to end this post now before it’s morning!!